My Point of View "5 Ways You Are Unknowingly Destroying Your Husband and Killing Your Marriage"

Just my simple thoughts from the blog I've read and  posted here: http://sweetmedic.blogspot.fr/2015/05/5-ways-you-are-unknowingly-destroying.html

1. Living outside what you can afford.

Yes, as a help to my husband I tried to live in our means , If we wanted to spend some time in vacation or buy things that we need, Saving atleast 50-100€ a month until we reach the said amount.

Emergency funds are very important, why?

• You have something to fall back on when an unexpected expense arises. 
• You avoid going into debt or pulling from retirement accounts if you are in need of funds.
•  You have peace of mind that if something were to happen to your job you could maintain your lifestyle (for a given period of time).

Based on our experience, we don't have emergency funds, we only have savings funds. When we started to have our own home we almost used our savings funds, (down payment, home transfer, new appliances etc) Our big fault was we treated it as a new beginning, new chapter even our account was a new beginning, Just 18 days after we transfer my car broke down and need a big reparation. Since, we don't have emergency funds, We went into debt,  until all the payment and posted cheques came at the same time. We don't have peace of mind, because for us we just paying the interest, after 4months we recovered and cut off all our credit cards. So we can say bye to temptation and buying things not worth it.

We learned to live  outside what we can afford.

2. Constant Negativity

This is define me, ahahahaha! My type of work requires patience, patience and full of patience. As a nurse we have this so called a toxic day, Like we cannot even take a little break to have a cup of coffee, add - ons to that a co- worker who keep on irritating me. He became my shock absorber,  I put the blame on him, when things went wrong. 

3. Putting Everything Else First

We don't have kids yet, so I don't have any excuse not to put him first. As our schedule is very opposite we try to have time to each other. Before, I can spend more than 2hrs on phone during our off days. But he corrected me, Phone calls are acceptable, but please limit it.  (so I did and it works)

In a week we only have 1 day or maximum of 2 days being together, so both need to adjust during these days,   I am a morning person, and he's not,he sleep late and woke up super late (he is used to these hours because of he's working sched) So he need to adjust around 12mn to be besides me in the bed, while me, vice versa, In the morning, I spent more time in the bed, even If I am wild awake, I found ways to stay beside him until 10am, I read books and do my devotion time.

http://sweetmedicsharingthings.blogspot.fr/2015/05/our-daily-time-together.html

4. Withholding Physical Affection

"Sex should not be used as a tool to control your spouse; it should be viewed as a sacred tool to draw you closer to one another and to God." 

Well, honestly speaking this is true,  withholding physical affection to your husband is like welcoming temptation to enter into your marriage.  Just recently we encountered this situation due to our opposite schedule, we almost forget our needs, Physical affection is a one factor how relationship will grow and more affection. Sweeter everyday, Healthy intimacy, healthy marriage life. 

5.  Not Speaking His Language

We have this chit chat time. We share opinion and point of views. Communication is a key 
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